selective perception

this is a term which i studied in organisational behavior and it is supposed to be the key element in trying to understand a person's behavior.

i have noticed, that this word encompasses the entire point of view and it also holds the reason for all the arguments, misunderstandings and misconceptions. its strange but real.

we might be looking at the same thing but because each of us perceive this thing differently, our point of views will differ and we'll have different things to talk about that one thing, imagine, in our lives we all see so many things and perceive it differently each time, how will we ever concur?

the basis of trying to understand another person's behavior i have found is first trying to establish the frames of references the person has. from where he has come, what he has seen, whom he has been with, etc. following this we can try and understand the person's opinions on various issues and after spending time with the person it is possible to understand and predict his behavior.

over the years, i have been observing people, their ideas and their behaviors unconciously. earlier i used to do it just because i could, and now i do it because i want to. the worst thing about observing people is trying to understand elders, not only do they have very wide frames of refrences but they also have some established perceptions which will not change no matter what.

its a complex world out there, and its really hard to be able to understand everything and even worst, to be in control of everything!

one must not lose all hope though, things change and so do circumstances and keeping in mind a positive attitude is all it takes to be happy! i must add however, the right companions play a v v imp role. :)

Orkut

these days i'm feeling like the internet is a vast ocean and one has to keep learning new things everyday! literally, jus the other day i started my blog and yesterday i became part of this orkut thing.. its a gmail offshoot and is for networking and making friends basically.. well i was mighty surprised, not only was my old colony a community there, but even my school and that too my batch was on it!! :) my college too is a community there but no one from my batch has joined so far..

i used to get these invites for hi5, and smsac and all those kind of things but i was pretty bored with all of them. first of all i never remembered my username or password so it would take me 15 mins to figure all that out and then i was too not interested in that site.. but orkut is fun!! and its very addictive as well.. its like connecting to the whole world and so easily.. i know i am sounding like i'm promoting this sit but seriously i had a blast yesterday.. :)

Blogging!!

i'm a rookie, i admit, but i thought this was supposed to be easy!! gosh, when i thought i wanted a blog i had no idea that there are some kind of steps one needs to follow!

to post something on my blog, it took me almost 15 mins to figure out how to post stuff on my blog.. so finally i'm here.

yesterday was a fun day, deciding to travel by best bus was the BEST thing i could do.. its been ages since i travelled in one and even though i had to wait for almost 30 mins in the harsh sun, it wasn't all that bad (though my skin is still complaining!) the entire journey was actually okay. its strange but you begin to notice so many things once you're amongst people.. and i love observing people.

somehow the journey is something like a reflection of your mind.

i have this weird feeling always that our surroundings reflect our feelings, or maybe, its the other way round, our feelings reflect our surroundings. sometimes when i'm calm i love going to the terrace and feeling the breeze hit my face, or just standing observing the glorious sun.. when i'm feeling lonesome and yet happy i love staring at the moon, somehow yesterday amidst all the chaos around me, listening to a song "i'm like a bird" and some other feel good numbers made me feel quite at peace even though my surroundings were anything but calm!

our mind is playing a game always.. :)

there's never a dull moment when you listen to your mind i guess, it just becomes fun when you have a conversation with it!