selective perception

this is a term which i studied in organisational behavior and it is supposed to be the key element in trying to understand a person's behavior.

i have noticed, that this word encompasses the entire point of view and it also holds the reason for all the arguments, misunderstandings and misconceptions. its strange but real.

we might be looking at the same thing but because each of us perceive this thing differently, our point of views will differ and we'll have different things to talk about that one thing, imagine, in our lives we all see so many things and perceive it differently each time, how will we ever concur?

the basis of trying to understand another person's behavior i have found is first trying to establish the frames of references the person has. from where he has come, what he has seen, whom he has been with, etc. following this we can try and understand the person's opinions on various issues and after spending time with the person it is possible to understand and predict his behavior.

over the years, i have been observing people, their ideas and their behaviors unconciously. earlier i used to do it just because i could, and now i do it because i want to. the worst thing about observing people is trying to understand elders, not only do they have very wide frames of refrences but they also have some established perceptions which will not change no matter what.

its a complex world out there, and its really hard to be able to understand everything and even worst, to be in control of everything!

one must not lose all hope though, things change and so do circumstances and keeping in mind a positive attitude is all it takes to be happy! i must add however, the right companions play a v v imp role. :)